Death and grief is not something that can be compartmentalized. It's impossible to tell someone that he or she will grieve for three months or six months or two years before starting to feel better. There is no set time frame for you to mourn your loved one. Bereavement is a process, not an event.
It's been said that time heals grief, and whilst that is true to some extent, it's what you do with your time that slowly starts you on your healing process. Although it may not feel like it when you’re in the midst of it all, it truly is a good thing to allow yourself to fully experience the pain and sorrow now rather than suppressing it and having it catch you completely off guard years down the line.
So, remember that the experience of loss, death and grief is different for everyone. It is important to spend as much time as you need to mourn the loss of your loved one. There's no time limit on grieving! If you and your loved one were close (or even if you weren't) it makes perfect sense for you to grieve for years after the death.
However long it takes you to grieve is OK and perfectly normal. The important thing to remember is that you will feel better. This, too, will pass.
However, if you feel as though you are "stuck" in the grieving process, you might consider attending a bereavement support group or even going to a few counseling sessions with a therapist who specializes in bereavement. Sometimes just being able to openly share your feelings with people who will support you and not judge you is all it takes to get the floodgates open and start you on the road to healing.
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