Hi, I wonder if you could advise people not to do anything hasty after the sudden death of a loved one. My son committed suicide about 4 years ago and in my shock and grief I made some very foolish decisions which could cost me my home. At the time of my son's death one of his friends was living with us and had been a part of our family for nearly 7 years. After Mark died we talked about moving but my son's friend didn't want to leave the area and my daughter and I gave in and decided that we would continue to live in the family home.
We had financial problems and after talking between the 3 of us we remortgaged the house and because of my state of mind, I signed all 3 of us on the property title. For the past 3 years my son's friend has been taking my daughter and I to court in order to claim our home. He put no money into the property - the property has been mine for over 30 years - and I threw it all away because my loss clouded my reason. I realize that you can do nothing to help me but I think that people should be made aware of the pitfalls when you lose a part of yourself. My son meant everything to me and I grieve for him daily - the pain never goes away - we still don't know what the outcome of this mess will be - the case keeps getting postponed and we live from day to day praying for a favourable outcome. Thank you for your time. Regards Pauline
After the deaths of my Mother and 9 mos. later, Dad, my own Son & Brother did some unbelievable things that helped_ destroy me. Haven't spoken to my only sibling since '07. Somewhat made peace w/my son. It's what Mom would want. People I've known all my life or theirs kick me when I'm down. Go figure. This is family?
Posted by: James Fountain | March 23, 2010 at 06:06 PM